We try to separate the two.
We want to draw a line that marks when one ended and the other began.
But it’s impossible. Because grief and love are of one piece.
Grief isn’t what comes AFTER love, grief IS love.
Grief is love with no place to go.
It’s what a heart is left with when the person upon which that love would be lavished is no longer available to receive what is offered.
We celebrate lifetime love. We make much over marriages that survive the years. We applaud the lost pet that pads his way home in spite of miles and misery to lay at the feet of his master.
Yet we want grievers to give up their sadness and bottle their tears because it makes US uncomfortable. It reminds us that next week WE could be the ones left with unspent love in our hearts.
But grief can never be small where love is large.
So very true. Thanks for sharing – writing is so cathartic and it is important to acknowledge grief in this way. I have a poetry blog here on WordPress and today’s poem is about grief in case you have time to look? Wishing you a relaxing weekend, Sam 🙂
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Something we all have to remember. ❤
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Grief IS love. That’s it in its entirety. Nothing more, nothing less. I need to keep remembering that. Thank you for this post.
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Beautiful message.
Today marks the fourth year without our beloved son. Nowhere to lavish the love we have for him – jumped off the screen to me. I miss the joy of loving him, surprising him with small things that reflect my love, being delighted with his personality, marveling at God’s great love for us to let us be his parents. There is such an ache in the way we continue to love him in the sorrow.
I thank God for your messages. ❤️
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Linda,
May you feel the Father’s loving arms around you today, especially. I am so sorry for this pain and sorrow you carry in your heart along with the love. Yes, we miss the joy of loving them-it’s what our mama hearts are made for. ❤
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I love this!
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❤
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