Repost :Why Friends Abandon Grievers

It’s been a long year. 

And an even longer last three months.  

I can tell the stress is easing, the burden lifting and the clouds parting.  But carrying the load for so long has caught up to me.

And I think I’ve finally reached the end of any reserve energy I may have had.

I try hard to write original material most days and there’s a backlog of over 1000 blog post drafts I can draw from but I just don’t have it in me today.  

So here’s another repost of a popular blog from earlier this year:  

“It happens in all kinds of ways.  One friend just slowly backs off from liking posts on Facebook, waves at a distance from across the sanctuary, stops texting to check up on me.

Another observes complete radio silence as soon as she walks away from the graveside. 

Still another hangs in for a few weeks-calls, texts, even invites me to lunch until I can see in her eyes that my lack of “progress” is making her uneasy.  Then she, too, falls off the grid.

Why do people do that? 

Why is it, when we need them most, many friends-and I mean really, truly FRIENDS–just can’t hang in and hold on?”

Read the rest here:  Why Friends Abandon Grievers

 

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

5 thoughts on “Repost :Why Friends Abandon Grievers”

  1. I am in deep grief and I relate to your oats so well. They are full of honestly and expression and reading your experiences do make me feel I am not alone facing these challenges in my grief journey.

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  3. You know, Melanie, I am right where you are … out of reserve energy … today, thanks to your words, I am going to sit down, put up my feet and recharge a bit. It has been a hurricane of hard stress this last 2 years and we are again approaching Brandon’s sonrise into heaven. Love slips out my eyes and down my cheek. Those around me want to see cheerful smiles that I am just not up to today. Thank you for sharing and lighting my path to see that real grieving looks different than what is expected of me by others. Know that your repost was the perfect balm for my heart today. Prayers to you Melanie, and thank you for sharing God’s gift of insightful words with all of us, both new posts and reposts💙. Valerie

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  4. You are so authentic and I cannot tell you how much your words mean. Each morning , I begin my day with your post— it always helps me get through the day.
    You have lifted me and countless orders. What service. What a gift.
    So much gratitude and my ongoing prayers for your graciousness. Your words matter. Deeply.

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    1. Thank you so much for that encouragement! I am sorry for your pain. This is a long and hard road where the tiniest flicker of hope can help a heart hold on. May the Lord meet you where you are, give you what you need and whisper courage to your heart. ❤

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