Why Am I Still Writing Six Years After Loss?

I first shared this last year when I was reflecting on half a decade of living without one of my children beside me. I’ve now had another year to think about why or if I’ll continue to write.

And this year has, in many ways, been one of the most difficult since Dominic ran ahead to Heaven. Today marks nine months since my mother joined him. Fresh grief has once again visited my heart.

The whole pandemic thing has wrecked havoc around the world and death fills the airwaves. My family has faced several unexpected changes and we are still trying to sort those.

But I find that writing still brings clarity and comfort to my soul. I still have things to say and I hope what I say still brings some small measure of light, love, life and hope to other hearts.

❤ Melanie

If someone had said, “Pick any topic to write about”, child loss wouldn’t have been in the first million choices.

No one CHOOSES child loss (Thus the name of the blog:  The Life I Didn’t Choose).

But untold numbers of parents EXPERIENCE it every year.  This very day,  parents somewhere got a knock on the door or a phone call or sat next to a hospital bed as life slipped slowly from their child’s tired body.

Since I was already journaling and had walked this Valley for nearly a year and a half, it dawned on me that the ramblings I’d put down might be helpful to another heart.  So I started THIS blog in September, 2015.

And I’ve been here ever since.  

Read the rest here: Why Am I Still Writing About Loss Five Years Out?

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

4 thoughts on “Why Am I Still Writing Six Years After Loss?”

  1. Melanie, I lost my son in a tragic accident at home 39 years ago. My husband and I survived but were forever changed. Your writings have helped me so much. Though I am in a different place today than 39 years ago, grief continues to define me and my family, which includes a daughter and a son that came after the death of our firstborn. Your insight, which I truly believe is God given, has given me a lot of “ah-ha” moments. I recently shared more about that time with my daughter, who is 36, especially the fear that underwrites the heart; it was a weeping, cleansing time for both of us. Thank you. I wish you comfort for your broken heart. I hope to read what God inspires you with for a long time.

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  2. Maybe I don’t comment or thank you for sharing your Dominic, your pain and your openness. I read your post everyday. 5 yrs ago my son John was taken too soon. I followed your new GrandGifts early beginnings and knew your pain when your Mother joined your son .
    You validate all the crazy emotions we ride, you offer okay in a world that is no longer ok. Who do you lean into with the pain Melanie? Your followers are here .. I hear you, I am here 💙😷🙏🏼☮️

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  3. Thanks I am going on 5 years and there are still days I am crippled by my loss. Robert is always on my mind. My soul aches for him to just “come back home.” My family has all but disintegrated. This is not a road for the faint hearted. I have found comfort in my relationship with Christ. He assures me that when this physical life is o er heaven will be waiting.

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