Acknowledging Our Grief Anniversaries

An insightful and universally applicable post-everryone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about-walk gently in this life.

“I’ve tried to remember this because it helps me to realize that most people I encounter every day are doing this continual memorializing of someone they love too. They, like me have these constant pinpricks to the heart that they are experiencing at any given moment. They, like me could be internally reeling for what seems to be no apparent reason. This very ordinary day for me could be a day of extraordinary mourning for them.”

john pavlovitz


I always struggle on sunny Saturday mornings.

It was a brilliantly blue-skyed September Saturday two and a half years ago, when I bounded down the stairs on the way to the gym and noticed my phone vibrating on the hallway table. The caller ID told me that it was my youngest brother Eric and so I rushed to it, eager to catch up. Had I known what he was going to tell me ten seconds later, I probably wouldn’t have answered it.

That was the moment I found out that my father was gone.

As only those who mourn the loss of someone they love deeply understand, sunny Saturday mornings have never been the same for me. They are now a Grief Anniversary; a perpetual, involuntary holiday where my heart marks its injury over and over and over again without me getting a say in the matter. Since that terrible day there has rarely been a Saturday morning regardless of…

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Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

4 thoughts on “Acknowledging Our Grief Anniversaries”

  1. Our daughter had the first blood test – the one that changed everything- on her fifteenth birthday (New Year’s Eve). She died just after her sixteenth birthday. Every month of the year contains landmarks and anniversaries. 💔
    John Pavlovitz writes very well and so do you Melanie ❤️

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    1. In the sudden loss of my mom a few weeks ago, I have found myself sad at small things like today depositing the last check mom sent with her handwriting to us for a v-day gift. These articles have helped me in knowing it’s ok to feel this way. Ty!

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      1. DeLisa, we don’t lose the ones we love all at once, we lose them little by little–all those precious tiny reminders of who they are and how we won’t have that wonderful presence walking beside us. I’m so sorry for your loss. I love you and am happy that these posts are helpful.


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