Why Grieving is a Family Affair

Child loss is also often sibling loss.  

In addition to their own heartache, bereaved parents carry the heartache of their surviving children.  

The family everyone once knew is now a family no one recognizes.  Hurting hearts huddle together-or run and hide-and it is so, so hard to find a way to talk about that pain. 

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Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

3 thoughts on “Why Grieving is a Family Affair”

  1. Yes., I am absolutely passionate about sibling support..why isn’t their more focus groups face to face , or network support for surviving siblings and also the magnificent friends of our our children…they are all so LOST, My children are absolutely devastated, yet the focus is on us as parents ..please don’t forget the siblings! We love you all just the same!
    I realise my faith journey has been longer than theirs ..I know where my son is..but it is so hard for them dealing with this loss at such young ages. They love their brother and miss him every single moment, of every day ..just as we all do.
    I’m afraid we are experiencing the ‘back to normal’ or ‘they’ve had months now to get over this ‘…sorry ..this is FOREVER. Also avoidance tactics. I will never ever get over suddenly losing my beautiful son without warning, nor will I ever ever stop loving him or talking about him. Thank you for listening to my heart pouring out to The Lord. He holds my hand until I am reunited with my darling boy x you are right Melanie, being part of this community feels right and this is our place now..everyone understands and we march on together. God bless everyone x

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    1. I, too, wish there were more support for siblings. I think for it to be most effective (and less like counseling which has a place but is different) it would need to be organized and run BY surviving siblings. Perhaps because we lose so many young people and children the siblings left behind are simply in a stage of life when they can’t create such peer-to-peer groups as the parents can.

      I have prayed for years that God would raise up the right person for that role and help them create such a support system for siblings. ❤


  2. Amen, I have a lot more I’d like to say, but sometimes you have to decide if it’s the right time. This is a time where the best thing to say, is “Amen, Lord I trust you.

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