I don’t like conflict.
My personality and life experience have molded me into a peacemaker.
And while Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers” He also wasn’t afraid to make some noise when necessary to shake things up.
But unlike Jesus, I tend to be a peace-at-all-costs kind of person. And it’s just not healthy.
I recently ran across this quote:
This was me before Dominic left us.
But not anymore.
One thing grief is teaching me is to speak up for myself.
Not in an arrogant you-don’t-matter-I-matter-more way but in a way that is more authentic and expresses how I really feel and what I really need from friends and family.
I’m learning to let others to keep themselves warm.
I help when I can-offer a blanket or hot chocolate-but I will no longer sacrifice my heart to others on the altar of peacemaking at all costs.
Dom was always encouraging me in this regard.
I think he’d be proud.