Thank you Janet!
You are a champion for hurting hearts and we need to hear your wisdom. It does get worse before it gets better. At four years I have many more “better” days that “worse” days but I am finding this fourth season of anniversaries is plunging me back under the ocean of grief. I have developed much more successful coping mechanisms. I can DO all the things I have to do.
But oh, my heart!
I appreciate your honesty, your encouragement and your commitment to autthenticity. No sugarcoating here! And that is such a breath of fresh air.
“It gets worse before it gets better.”
Those were the words the pastor offered to a newly bereaved couple whose daughter had died unexpectedly.
And you should know that he is right.
Bereaved parents are stunned when four months, six month, nine months down the road they find their grief remains overwhelmingly raw.
The shock has worn off.
Their hearts have been flayed open and the wound is still bleeding.
It doesn’t help that those outside the loss community expect healing to be happening when the magnitude of the loss is still seeping into the soul.
The depth of loss has not been fully realized when the funeral is over. No, in the weeks and months and years ahead bereaved parents are confronted with the realization that they didn’t just lose their child but that they lost the hope, dreams and expectations they held for that child as well. They…
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