Rescuing Memories

I spent this past week down at our family farm and for a day my dad, my son and I dug through decades of dust and memories in an attempt to rescue items that are of little monetary value but are priceless to us.

My son found my granddaddy’s forge-something we thought might have gone the way of so many old things, hauled off for scrap or sold to the highest bidder. It still had coal in it from the last time he fired it up.

I don’t think any Christmas morning can hold a candle to the excitement and surprise and absolute delight we all felt when the door to an old bedroom was shoved open to reveal this treasure.

Julian is a blacksmith. Skilled with his hands. Patient in drawing out the useful in materials. Just like Granddaddy. I can’t wait for him to fire that forge back up and make something beautiful.

A necklace Julian made for me.

I found remnants of my distant childhood.

Bits of years gone by that had been sent “down home” when the decor or the space in a new house dictated things be passed on to someone who might still be able to use them.

Jars. Oh my! Dozens of jars documenting decades of women putting up summer bounty to provide for lean times in winter.

antique vintage glass canning jars w/ 1908 patent dates, bail lid ...

Old blue Ball jars with rubber gaskets and a metal latch to hold them down along with generations of more modern variations on the same theme brought back memories of shelling peas, snapping beans and scraping every single bit of sweet goodness off cobs of corn.

Even though most visits to the farm included what folks today would call child labor, I never left my grandparents’ home thinking I’d been abused or overworked.

Shelled many a peas with my grandma on front porch | Art, Vintage ...

I learned so much from the hardworking, God fearing, frugal, community and family oriented people that lived on those dirt roads!

We have several boxes of beautiful things we found stashed inside that falling down clapboard house.

Old Farm House (With images) | Old farm houses, Abandoned farm ...
Not our actual old farm house. Very similar though.

But my very favorite-the piece that is already in my china cabinet-is my great-grandmother’s whetstone.

I imagine most folks don’t even know what a whetstone is.

But where I come from it’s a time-honored method for sharpening hand-me-down knives that pass from generation to generation.

I have no way of knowing if she got it from someone else or if her hands were the first to draw the knife across its surface. In any event it is worn smooth from decades of use. Honestly, I’m not sure how useful it might still be in providing the necessary friction to sharpen another generation of knives.

It reminded me we all start out a bit rough around the edges.

Youthful pride and exuberance convinces our hearts that we’re invincible and infallible.

But time and experience expose that lie.

I hold the stone my great-grandmother held-the woman who buried more than one child-and I feel the connection with the women of my family. I feel the strength it took to work long hours in the summer sun knowing that if they didn’t their family wouldn’t eat that winter.

I feel the courage required to carry and bear another child when the last few breathed only a few days or a couple of years or were born straight to Heaven.

And the weight of it in my hand reminds me that life can be more than a little heavy sometimes.

It helps my heart hold on to know I come from a long line of survivors.

Most folks want antiques that can fetch a high price or at least an envious look from those who wish they were so fortunate to have them.

Not me.

I want the things that have passed through the hands and speak to the work of those I’ve loved-the worn down, worn out relics of lives well lived and hearts poured into the next generation.

Someone else might mistake this fist-sized stone for something found on the side of the road but I know its story.

And because I know the story, I know its worth.

My family has lived on these dirt roads for a hundred years.

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

4 thoughts on “Rescuing Memories”

  1. My maternal grandmother lost two adult children, a son and a daughter. My aunt lost her only daughter and I lost my youngest son. It seems almost familial. One mother from each generation, and it breaks my heart! I can’t wait for Heaven, but I will wait until He calls me home and dream about the glorious reunion!!

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  2. This part of your grief journey has impacted mine. Thank you! I have treasures from my grandparents as well. More precious than gold or silver. Blessings to you.

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