Grief Brain: Still Real After Eight Years!

Traumatic loss rewires your brain as well as your body.

So here I am, nearly eight years into the journey of sudden child loss and I’m reminded once again I am not the same “me” I once was.

Our newest grandbaby made an early entrance into the world nearly two weeks ago and I’m doing Mama D duty with his big brother. It’s a delight to be with my three year old grandson but it’s also challenging for this aging/post trauma brain.

Trying to navigate (super simple) routes to and from the hospital, to and from preschool, and to and from the closest grocery store has led to more than one U-turn and long way around. Sure I could use my phone’s GPS but I keep thinking I’ll finally remember next time.

I should know better by now…

❤ Melanie

I’m looking right at her.

know her.  In fact, I’ve known her for years.  But please don’t ask me her name.

I have no idea.

It happens to all of us-meet someone in the store or at the Post Office and you just know you know them, but cannot-for the life of you-remember a name.


Chatting on, you search mental files desperately trying to make a connection you can hold onto.  Five minutes after she walks away it pops up-oh, yes!  That’s so-and-so from such-and-such.

Imagine if instead of searching mental files without success you can’t even find the file cabinet and start to wonder if one ever existed.

That’s what “grief brain” does to you.

Here are a few more examples of things that actually happened:

Read the rest here: Grief Brain: It’s a Real Thing!

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

3 thoughts on “Grief Brain: Still Real After Eight Years!”

  1. Nearly six years in and my grief brain hinders me almost every day. I find it particularly scary when I’m driving….you can’t rely on post it notes in a car! Joking aside though I don’t know what I would do without them.
    Hold on in there ❤

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  2. I rarely comment, however read your blog everyday. I sincerely appreciate that somehow you have a way of helping me to realize my feelings are normal.
    Like you, Im not new to grief, It is now 6 plus years of finding my way since my son passed away in a car accident.
    This upcoming week is our birthdays.
    Yes, I was blessed to have him on my birthday 31 years ago. I continue to struggle between trying to be happy to celebrate my special day for my family who wants to celebrate me and remembering that joyous day 31 years ago.
    Please pray for me that one day I will be ready to allow them that joy.
    I struggle every year. ❤️

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