Time, by itself, does not heal all wounds.
But of all the factors that promote healing, there is NO SUBSTITUTE for time–not in the physical world of surgery and broken bones and deep wounds and not in the inner world of emotional pain and brokenness and sorrow.
Our bodies are made to be amazingly resilient.
Most people don’t really think of surgery as an assault on the body, but it is.
The surgeon knifes through layers of flesh and tissue that are designed to keep intruders out, mucks about inside, does what he or she came to do, and closes up–hopefully without introducing bacteria into the wound. Some medication may be prescribed to promote healing, control pain and reduce the risk of infection.
Then the patient goes home to recover.
But it is really TIME and the body’s own healing powers that do the lion’s share of the work.
Our hearts and minds can be resilient too.
Frequently, someone who suffers an assault on their emotions may not bear outward signs and symbols to mark what they’ve been through. And well-meaning friends and family can forget that healing has only begun and is far from complete.
Sometimes broken people feel pressured to put on a brave face and to stuff their feelings.
For the body, ignoring doctor’s orders to rest after surgery can mean another hospital stay due to complications that might have been avoided if the patient had been given sufficient time to recover.
Emotionally wounded people can end up with complications from pressure to rejoin regular activities and engage society in ways for which they are not yet ready.
It takes TIME to heal from burying a child or any other traumatic loss.
There is no way to rush the healing. It takes HOURS AND HOURS to think about, respond to and process the feelings that overwhelm anyone who is grieving or trying to cope with emotional upheaval of any kind.
So be patient with yourself.
- Understand that there will be good days and bad days.
- There will be forward movement and steps backward.
- Sometimes it will be easy to do something or go somewhere and the next time it might be really hard.
And don’t be afraid to let others know you are still healing.
Deep emotional wounds require great care and an extended period of time to heal if the healing is to be sound and free from unnecessary complications.
You are not selfish to draw boundaries around what you can and can’t do, what you will and won’t allow and where and when you engage with others-you are being wise.
For those walking with the wounded: extend grace and be patient.
Thank God you are not bearing this burden and be mindful of placing demands or pressure on the wounded to heal according to a predetermined timetable.
Then support them in their effort to give themselves the TIME they need to heal.