The Complex World of Child Loss

On the other side of child loss, many things that used to be easy just aren’t anymore.  

It takes so much energy to get through a day and navigate the minefields of conversation.

I wrote this a few months ago as I was pondering this aspect of my new life:

“One of the things I’ve been forced to embrace in the wake of child loss is that there are very few questions, experiences or feelings that are simple anymore.”

Read the rest here:  It’s Complicated

 

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

7 thoughts on “The Complex World of Child Loss”

  1. My son is still here, but not like he was. He was in a car accident leaving him with a traumatic brain injury and a stroke. He is paralyzed on his left side, and will never be able to walk. I grieve for him every day. My heart breaks! I take care of him at home. I didn’t want him to go to a nursing home. This happened in 2003, he was 28 years of age , married and with a three year old daughter. I’m 78, but in excellent health. I’m so thankful I can still do this. It is very hard at times, but this is how I wanted to take care of him. I need prayers, and this wouldn’t have been possible without my Heavenly Father!🙏🏻🙏🏻

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    1. You are living a a life of love poured out on your son! What a beautiful testimony to the strength and enabling grace of our Lord. It is most certainly grief to know what could have been and live with a daily reminder of what is, instead. May the Father overwhelm you every single day with His love, grace and continue to give you strength to minister to your son. ❤

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  3. This is very true for myself as well. Two years from the day my son left for Heaven, I started getting confused, tripping over my words and making mistakes at work doing things I’ve done for years. I look forward to the day that I once again have energy and a strong mind. God bless you!

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  4. Nicely done. But I think this where some men differ from women. First instance, when I walk into a store and hear the music, I hear but don’t listen. I’m focused on shopping. Strangers don’t ask men how many children we have. I do have a canned answer ready, two. Music in church can be the same, just maybe not the resulting sobbing, just overwhelming sadness.

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