Repost: You Can Only Hold On To What You Refuse To Let Go Of

I wrote this post after hearing a radio interview in which the guest said, “You can only hold onto what you refuse to let go of” in reference to clinging to what was truly important in life.

It struck a chord deep in my heart because as the weeks turn to months and then to years, I’m realizing I must hold onto every bit of Dominic that I can.

Because no matter how much I wish it were different, time has a way of washing our minds clean of things we don’t cling to with both hands.

Those hours before I planted one last kiss on my son’s forehead, I held his hand.  

I nodded at the people filing past to pay their respects with my arm tucked behind me, desperate to cling to my child.

Read the rest here:  You Can Only Hold On To What You Refuse to Let Go Of

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

2 thoughts on “Repost: You Can Only Hold On To What You Refuse To Let Go Of”

  1. Melanie, I too have 4 children. Three on earth with us and my baby boy who was 15 changed his address to heaven on May 21, 2016. My heart is so heavy and the anticipation of the 21st, is a feeling I never wanted to experience. My husband and I dropped him and a friend off at a lake close to our home to go fishing. I told them not to swim unless it was a designated swimming area. That day they made a 15 year old decision to swim a 60 yard cove. Before they started across the cove, they discussed what to do if they got to tired. We’re not positive what happened, a leg cramp maybe, exhaustion maybe, we don’t know. The only thing I know is my son didn’t make it.
    I have never felt such a heart wrenching feeling as losing Michael. I didn’t know a person could cry everyday for 11 months, not the sobbing crying so much now, but tears well up in my eyes when I see his picture or see something he left behind. We’ve almost had every “first” since his death. The next first will be the anniversary of his death. I pray for all the parents that have lost a child and can’t wait for our reunion in heaven when God says it’s time. Thank you Jesus for your agonizing sacrifice on the cross so we can spend eternity together and will never be separated again. 💜💜💜

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    1. Teri, I am so very sorry for your pain and your loss! All the “firsts” are hard. Every one a reminder that even though we don’t know how, life goes on. Praying that you feel the Father’s loving arms around you and that He floods your heart with His mercy and grace. May He strengthen you for each new day and espeically for the 21st. ❤


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