We all know how it is-you move, you lose an address or phone number, you lose touch.
But sometimes friendships end more abruptly-not because lives drifted apart but because one person became so uncomfortable she chose to walk the other way.
That’s what happens so often the other side of child loss. Friends disappear because loss makes them profoundly uncomfortable.
I get it-I’m a walking reminder that if it happened to me, it can happen to you.
You don’t know what to say when the tears flow. You feel helpless in the face of my helplessness. You are afraid my questions might weaken your faith.
And after months of avoiding me you feel guilty.
But may I tell you something? I still need you.
It doesn’t matter if you have the perfect words. Your presence is what lifts my spirits.
I won’t chastise you for your absence.
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This just added another level of grief to my life. I THOUGHT I had a large support system. At the time of my sons death, I had 4-5 friends here, every day, before his celebration of life. Each of these friends had been friends for at least 30 years–so up to 40. Within a year, all but 2 ghosted me. I would ask if I had done something, because I know I was crazy those first few months, but they would just tell me they were “busy”. I was the only one who reached out–except for the 2 who continually showed up. After 7 years of therapy (and many more stressful things happening in my life), I decided I probably wouldn’t want them to come back into my life. I think people just don’t realize that no contact adds more grief to the person.
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I am so very sorry dear one. My heart hurts for yours. Praying the Lord wraps His loving arms around you and that you hear Him singing grace, comfort, strength and hope over your wounded heart. ❤
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