Often a new year means taking stock of the previous twelve months and making adjustments for the next twelve.
When I comb back through my memories I try to notice where I struggled and where I soared. I want to learn from the things that worked and the things that didn’t. And I almost always find relationships top the list of where I need to make changes.
Grief is tough on friendships.
Not everyone can or will stick around while broken hearts work hard to put the pieces back together.
I miss some of the people I thought would still be here and, if I allow myself to do it, can invest too much of the precious and limited emotional energy I have left this side of child loss in being angry, bitter or just plain disappointed.
But that is unhelpful.
So instead I began to think about WHY some friends abandon grievers.
Here’s what I think: Why Friends Abandon Grievers