“Above all, show your love. Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened up in your friend’s life, without flinching or turning away. Your steadiness of presence is the absolute best thing you can give.” ~ Refuge in Grief
I truly believe that our friends and family WANT to be helpful as they companion us in grief.
But if they’ve never known great loss, they may well be clueless.
I love to share ideas, graphics and stories that can help them learn how.
Here’s a good list, just right for sharing:
- Don’t compare griefs, ask questions.
- Don’t minimize, respect their experience.
- Don’t give compliments, trust your friend.
- Don’t be a cheerleader, mirror their reality.
- Don’t talk about “later”, stay in the present moment.
- Don’t evangelize, trust their self-care.
- Don’t start with solutions, get consent.
I’m not computer savvy enough to make graphics like this so I love it when I find them.
I especially like this one which puts so many good ideas in a simple to use, easy to remember format.
These are absolutely perfect for anyone walking with a grieving friend.