You Are Missing From Me


There’s a subtle difference between the English phrase, “I’m missing you” and the french expression, “you are missing from me”.

When Dominic went on a trip or wasn’t present for a meal or hadn’t called in a couple of days, I missed him.

But it was the kind of missing where you can catch up eventually. 

I could have filled in the details of what happened while he was gone and still get his reaction, advice, input and unique perspective.

But now, things are utterly changed.

He is missing from me.

Untouchable, unreachable and unknowable.

The part of me uniquely reflected from the mirror that is my third-born child is just gone.

And there is no way to get it or him back.

missing from me

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

6 thoughts on “You Are Missing From Me”

  1. Melanie, I am just now reading this post, and almost gasped when I saw that you posted it on June 9th, which is our anniversary of losing our son, Robert, in 2010. Oh my goodness, how poignant, how true! He IS missing from me, from us! And how we felt it yesterday, when we gathered for my husband’s birthday. You have spoken to me so many times! Your faith is so inspirational, yet your pain is palpable, as is mine. I thank you for keeping on keeping on with your beautiful writing! It ministers to so many! Love and hugs to you! 💙💙

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  2. It is so hard, isn’t it….the missing, the longing…

    Yes, they are missing from us….

    Gentle thoughts, hopes for peaceful moments

    Susan, Brian’s mom

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  3. “Tu me manques” has been a phrase I speak aloud to Luke frequently…I miss you doesn’t quite cut it, does it?
    It will be three years next weekend, on Father’s day that Luke rushed on ahead. I will be glad when the two dates separate in the future for my husband’s sake. 💔

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    1. I will be praying especially for you and your family this week. It’s very hard when milestones and holidays coincide. May the Lord give you strength and may He overwhelm your hearts with His love, grace and mercy. ❤


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