Advent: [Nearly] Blind Trust

It was one thing for Mary, who saw the angel Gabriel and was overshadowed by the Holy Spirit to have confidence that the growing child inside her belly was the Son of God.

It was quite another for Joseph, her betrothed, to take her word for it.

Contrary to the way we like to imagine “the olden days” intimate liaisons before marriage were just as common then as now. Betrothed couples were considered married in every way except physical consummation of the relationship. And not everyone waited for the final ceremony.

But Joseph knew it wasn’t him.

18 The birth of Jesus Christ came about this way: After His mother Mary had been engaged to Joseph, it was discovered before they came together that she was pregnant by the Holy Spirit. 19 So her husband Joseph, being a righteous man, and not wanting to disgrace her publicly, decided to divorce her secretly.

20 But after he had considered these things, an angel of the Lord suddenly appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, don’t be afraid to take Mary as your wife, because what has been conceived in her is by the Holy Spirit. 21 She will give birth to a son, and you are to name Him Jesus, because He will save His people from their sins.”

Matthew 1: 18-21 HCSB

Who is Joseph, the earthly Father of Jesus? ⋆ Diana Leagh Matthews

I’m sure Mary had told him the story. It had to sound crazy. It certainly didn’t make sense in any way he could wrap his head around.

Being a kind and righteous man, he decided to extricate himself from this messy situation as quietly as possible.

This single gesture reveals so much of his heart!

He could have made a public show of her, could have insisted on, at the least, she be shamed and never fit for marriage and at the worst, stoned to death for infidelity.

But instead he just wanted out.

Day 202 – Christmas Courage: The Story of Joseph #2 - Wisdom-Trek ©

God honored Joseph’s heart and gave him what he needed to embrace the truth of Mary’s explanation. And He revealed even more about the Child: His name would be Jesus (Yeshua-Deliverer, Savior) because He will save His people from their sins.

So he chose to remain, to trust, to join Mary in submitting to God’s will.

Philippe de Champaigne | The Dream of Saint Joseph | NG6276 | The National  Gallery, London | St joseph, St john bosco, Joseph

I really, really, really wish sometimes God would give me a dream or a vision or a visit from an Angel to confirm the inklings I have about what He may be doing in my life or the lives of my family.

I’ve never had a vision or visit although I’ve had a few dreams.

What I DO have is His Word, the testimony of His Spirit and a lifetime of experience that tells me His love endures forever.

Doubters may consider that blind trust.

I’m pretty sure many of Joseph’s buddies thought he was a fool for joining his life to the obviously unfaithful Mary’s.

But he held onto what the Lord revealed to him, just as I have to hold on to what the Lord reveals to me.

Walking in the dark by the light of His truth.


  • Can you imagine the rumors flying around the village when Mary could no longer hide her condition? Put yourself in Joseph’s place. How tempted might it have been for him to try to find a way out?
  • Have you ever been led by God to do something that seemed foolish, or worse, to others? Did you do it? Why or why not?
  • The story of Christ’s birth is full of special messengers and extraordinary assurances to those intimately involved. Do you take these literally? Do you wish you could have such encounters?
  • Joseph ultimately became the earthly father to God’s own son. What a privilege and what a responsibility! What do you see in these verses that might give us a clue as to why God chose him?


You are faithful and true. You lead me well even when I’m not sure of your Presence or the path. I stand in awe of how You use ordinary but willing people to bring about your extraordinary and eternal purposes.

What looks like blind trust to those who have not yet met Jesus is nothing like that at all. I can trust You because You have proven over and over and over that your intentions toward me are good, your heart is loving and your grace abundant and sufficient no matter where I must go.

Help me to remember Who You are and help me to cling fast to truth. Give me courage to make hard choices and follow wherever You lead.


“Who do you think could believe such a thing, could believe such a story was true?”

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

4 thoughts on “Advent: [Nearly] Blind Trust”

  1. What beautiful writing on this part of advent, Melanie.
    I take great comfort from it..and it fills my heart with hope and love.
    Yes..I often dream of my son. Those dreams are glorious. It sometimes feels so real that I wake thinking it is. Then I realise I’m living in a real waking nightmare .
    I wonder ..what is heaven like? will my son appear and show me his new life in a dream…he is just too wonderful to be anywhere else …this is why I stay true to my belief that we all will be reunited. Until that day I’ll cry, I’ll miss him more, I yearn for him near me, yet my love and faith will grow stronger. Because we must BELIEVE and live in hope, not fear x thank you Melanie.


    1. How wonderful you often dream of your son! I too wonder what Heaven is like. There are hints in Scripture but despite how some folks weave those together, I can’t get a good solid picture in my own mind. But, like you say, it will be glorious when we get there and is now glorious for our sons.

      May you continue to lean on Jesus and allow Him to bring comfort to your heart. ❤


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