I happened to be traveling recently and saw that Anderson Cooper, son of Gloria Vanderbilt, has filmed a documentary about his mother titled Nothing Left Unsaid. I don’t know much about him or the film, but the title immediately struck a chord in my heart.
I am learning so much through grieving my son.
I am learning by hard experience that we may not have tomorrow.
And I am learning that what weighs most heavily on my heart is not the things I said or did but the things I didn’t say or didn’t do.
The brick wall of regret is built of things unsaid and undone.
So I try to be more faithful and timely in telling people, “thank you”. I strive to demonstrate my love and gratitude in ways that others find meaningful and helpful. I refuse to be embarrassed or shushed into silence when strong emotion wells in my throat begging to be released.
Not everyone is woken from the stupor of assuming there will be a tomorrow as violently or suddenly as I was-but everyone will have a moment when they realize the opportunity to express love to a particular person has been snatched away.
So ask yourself:
- What grudges am I holding?
- What anger or bitterness keeps I from reaching out?
- What fear binds me to my chair, preventing me from making that call or visit?
- What words of blessing do I need to speak over the bowed head of someone I love?
When I leave this earth, I want to leave knowing that I have said it all– nothing left unsaid.