Speak Your Peace-You May Not Get Another Chance

Just a couple of days before Dominic left us, I and another one of my kids had a fuss.

He was frustrated and stressed and I was vulnerable and stressed and a few stray words ended up hurting my feelings.

I said, “I can’t talk anymore now”,  and hung up the phone in tears.

He was sorry and I was sorry and we immediately exchanged texts and let the feelings cool so we could resume our conversation the next day.

He sent me flowers.

flower-arrangement

They were still beautiful when he came home to bury his brother.

Our family observes a rule:  Don’t part in the heat of anger.

We may not be over our pain and the reason for the dispute may be legitimate, but NOTHING trumps relationship.

I am so very thankful for that rule.  Because one burden I don’t have to carry is that I might have left Dominic wondering if everything was OK between us.

It was.

So I say to you:

  • Speak your peace.
  • Say you’re sorry.
  • Move TOWARD the people you love and not away from them.

I pray every time I hear a siren that the person they are going to rescue will be alright.  I pray that the family that loves that person will get another chance.  I pray that the call that’s made is, “Come to the hospital to see me” and not “Come to the morgue”.

But you never know-you have NO guarantee that the last time you see or speak to someone you care about won’t be the LAST time.

And then you cannot undo the horror of regret that they might have left this world wondering if you loved them.

“I love you.”

“I’m sorry.”

“I don’t want to stay angry with you.  Please forgive me.”

Say it loud, say it often, say it NOW.

 

 

 

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

2 thoughts on “Speak Your Peace-You May Not Get Another Chance”

  1. This is so true. Two weeks before we lost Brenton, my husband was finally packing our house of 17 years to move to New Orleans to be with me. The entire family was together. On Sunday, with little time to go, Brenton was fooling around and not helping finish loading the UHaul truck. My husband got frustrated with him and started yelling at him to help.

    After it was all said and done, my husband walked up to Brenton and hugged him (who knew that would be the last hug he received) and told him he loved him and was sorry. I thank God every day that my husband did that. If he had not done that and walked away that day mad, I am not sure my husband could have lived with himself knowing he left things in a bad way with Brenton.

    So as my grandparents used to tell me, don’t ever go to bed angry. Couples/families/people are going to argue but for the ones that you love, don’t ever let them think you don’t. None of us know when our time will be called and I personally don’t want to live with the guilt that I didn’t let my family and friends know I love them.

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    1. I am thankful too that your husband and Brenton left each other in love and not anger. So, so important for us who know the pain of loss to remind those who don’t. Thank you for sharing part of your story with me. May the Lord continue to give you strength for each day.

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