Trying to Hold off the Holidays

Here they come round the bend like a pack of dogs chasing that rabbit on a racetrack.

No way to slow them down, no way to step to the side and ward off the relentless message that Thanksgiving and Christmas are coming soon-so, so soon.

Stores scream, “You’ve got to buy it NOW!  You’re running out of time!”

Billboards, radio and television ads, and calendars count down the days.

Decorations assault my eyes and ears and nose (thank you pumpkin everything!).  I cannot get away.  There’s no where to hide.

pumpkin spice

So I have decided to take the offensive.  I will do the things that must be done as quickly, as efficiently and as quietly as possible.

I am sending Thanksgiving cards instead of Christmas cards.  I like the fall colors better than traditional yuletide hues anyway.  No one says the yearly update letter has to be postmarked in December.

Our gift-giving is much simpler now than before Dominic ran ahead to Heaven.  I’m less inclined to wrap dozens of presents to pile under the tree and more likely to give cash or gift cards along with a heartfelt note.   So I will get all this together before the weather warrants a fire here in the Deep South.

I’m easily overwhelmed.

And too much of anything just seems like entirely. too. much.

Instead of loads of decorating that involves changing out all the everyday with holiday, I will put out a few bright things and lots of candles.

glowing candles huff post

Flickering light in approaching darkness speaks hope to my heart.

I will concentrate on people, not on things.  I am making space on the calendar for casual conversation instead of constant motion.

I won’t be swept along by the yuletide current, struggling for air, barely making it to January and glad the holidays are over.

Sip and savor.

That’s my motto.

I’m sticking to it.

coffee cup fall leaves


Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

3 thoughts on “Trying to Hold off the Holidays”

  1. Last year was our first. Your blog said to plan ahead and that’s what we did. Instead of the “usual” family get together, we looked to the future and had Christmas with another family. My oldest daughter’s boyfriend’s family. As difficult as it was, it worked for us.

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  2. I was discussing this with my daughter in law yesterday. We lost our 17 yr old and 8 yr. old granddaughters in July in a tragic accident. We have 6 other grandchildren. We all have always gathered for brunch on Christmas Day. My husband and I don’t want to celebrate like that this year. We thought we could just go to our other two boys home and give our gifts and visit. My daughter in law wants to go away for a few days with my son and granson (who was there when the accident happened). She cannot bear the thiught of being around any Christmas activities at all. Yesterday, my grandson told her he wanted to stay home and do Christmas like we always do. She told him it wouldn’t be the same but he told her it was as close to normal as he can get and that’s why he wants it. My son will do what my daughter in law wants to make things easier for her even though he thinks no matter where they are they won’t escape the pain of the day. How do others handle this?

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