The calendar is tricky for grieving hearts.
It’s not just a way to plan events or remember doctor appointments.
It’s full of milestone dates and commitments that loom large and awful like an oncoming train in a dark tunnel.
Sometimes I just want to fall asleep sometime around the end of October and wake up in January after all the hoopla is over.
But I can’t.
It’s not because I’m a Scrooge-I actually love making and giving gifts, I like baking cookies and breads, I enjoy cozy evenings with family in front of the fireplace.
What I don’t like is the busyness, the crowds, the push to be hap-hap-happy all the time and the crazy consumerism that crowds out the quiet peace of the promise of Light in the darkness.
I also struggle with meeting expectations-my own and those of others’-as well as enduring loud and slightly chaotic gatherings.
This will be the fifth set of holidays since Dominic ran ahead to Heaven and we have yet to settle on a pattern for how to approach them. Each year has been different and each year has presented new challenges.
I think the two things I’ve learned so far are this: (1) It’s OK to do things differently or to skip some things altogether; and (2) It’s important to communicate my needs and limitations to those around me.
Timing matters too.
I need to prepare family and friends NOW for the changes coming to holiday plans.
So for the next few days I’m going to repost some of the articles I’ve written about how to survive the holidays with a grieving heart.
They are not a “how-to” manual-just some observations and suggestions.
Take what is helpful and leave the rest.
In the end, each heart needs to find its own path.
I pray you find yours. ❤