The Good Stuff

I am not sticking my head in the sand.

My family has regular discussions about current events and while I don’t watch televised news, I read widely each day about what’s going on in the world.

Even still, a steady diet of nothing but dire reports is anything but good for a heart.

So each day I try to focus on some happy moments as well.

Let me share a few with you.

This past week I’ve gotten a good bit of outdoor work done, sweated tons and walked farther and longer than usual.

Our weather turned from rainy and excessively humid to sunny and actually pretty dry (for Alabama!).

My chickens are laying well and our little local produce man had watermelons and peaches.

This afternoon I’ll hop in my not-very-big above ground pool and cool off between chores while Frodo the goat watches me.

Frodo the goat who loves to be where he shouldn’t be and my pool.

Black-eyed Susans are blooming by my mailbox.

I had lunch with a friend.

Easy Grilled Burger Recipe | Kingsford®
Burgers with fresh tomatoes, lettuce and peaches for dessert.

And I had a video chat with four other amazing bereaved mamas.

Finding at least one thing each day for which to be thankful helps my heart hold onto hope.

I make a conscious effort to breathe in beauty and enjoy those moments.

When I was fresh on this journey it was hard to receive anything as “good”. Everything was filtered through the lens of loss. So I understand if you think this is a futile exercise.

But eventually I was able to see more than my son’s absence and feel more than pain and sorrow.

What we have enjoyed, we can never lose... all that we 
love deeply becomes a part of us. - Helen Keller

Life is still life and there are still beautiful moments. Sunlight through the trees, a baby’s laugh, friends and family around the table, flowers, furry friends, a favorite meal, or the perfect cup of coffee are all things I enjoy. They don’t take away the sorrow of missing my son but they are worth celebrating.

I’m learning to hang onto them with both hands and to cherish them as a gift.

Think about it.

What made you smile this week?

Wanna share?

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

6 thoughts on “The Good Stuff”

  1. Yes, it is so very true that we need to make sure that we are actively looking for the good things that are still all around us and that God blesses us with every day. I know that is exactly what my beautiful daughter wants me to be doing in this life until I join her in paradise. Thank you so much for the reminder Melanie, your posts are an incredible blessing to me. ❤️❤️🙏🦋🌻

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  2. I’m so happy you have so many creatures and nature to soothe your soul.

    Your grandson is totally precious. God’s blessing.

    On Mon, Jun 15, 2020, 1:04 AM thelifeididntchoose wrote:

    > Melanie posted: ” I am not sticking my head in the sand. My family has > regular discussions about current events and while I don’t watch televised > news, I read widely each day about what’s going on in the world. Even > still, a steady diet of nothing but dire reports i” >

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  3. Me too. Tomorrow is my son’s birthday, and as I’ve watched what’s happening in our country right now I’ve thought a lot about the conversations he and I would be having, and it’s been ironically comforting, because we used to have such good talks!

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    1. A beautiful moment this morning when some friends from church visited for catch up, book swap and coffee. It was the first time we had seen them in twelve long weeks. It is four years tomorrow that Luke chose to leave us and they left a beautiful card keeping us in their thoughts and prayers ❤

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