Looking Forward: A New Season of Grief

For a long, long time I couldn’t bear to see a monthly calendar.

I didn’t want to be reminded that time refused to stand still for my broken heart and I hated there were no more “Dominic” events to scribble in on the blank squares.

Around the third year I was able to once again mark major events like birthdays, holidays and short family trips. But it was even longer before I was able to truly look forward with excitement to those things.

Seven plus years, multiple family changes, a pandemic, retirement and a grandchild have reshaped my heart so that I’m genuinely thrilled to prepare and participate in most things from family meals to “Granny Camp” (which I get to host next week!).

I’m not forgetting nor minimizing Dominic by diving into these events with gusto. In fact, I’m sure he would approve.

So I’m entering a new season of grief-one which makes room for current joys and celebrations while still holding space for Dominic.

I can be present and participate without reserve.

I am making memories with those who are still here.

Enjoying every moment.

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

5 thoughts on “Looking Forward: A New Season of Grief”

  1. You have helped me validate my feelings. While I miss my Steven as much as ever, I have so much to live for and I know he’s so happy to see me enjoying life.

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  2. wonderful. ITs so good to hear “the moving forward” part of this awful loss. Im getting there. ITs a strange feeling at times. I find when I have some “up” moments/days that I often have a quiet meltdown on the other side. It all takes energy.Thanks for your words.

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  3. I too feel as though I have have moved into a new “season of grief.’ Life has changed and me with it as we are apt to.

    I’m unsure of the future as my family has fractured beyond anything I had ever envisaged. Some things are good, some not so good but that’s the way of the world. It would have been so even if Luke were still here with us.

    Joys are still there to be had ❤

    Sending love across the ocean Melaine, your new photographs are a joy to see xxx

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    1. Carol,

      You have helped me realize that much of my life today would have been precisely the same even if Dom were here too. That is wisdom.

      Thank you, my friend. We may never meet in this life but I look forward to eternity with you and so many others who have been a blessing. ❤

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      1. You are very kind Melanie ❤

        Yes I reckon I would have contracted Covid 19 even if Luke had been here 😆 I am isolating at the moment and have another seven days to go. Luckily my husband and daughter are showing no signs for the moment but are doing regular tests. They are keeping me fed and watered.

        Thank goodness I have had both doses of vaccines as I think it would have been much worse. The symptoms are lessening but I am still feel very weak.

        Who knows about that meeting in thus life….I’ve got a bucket list 😉

        May God bless you and keep you in His care dear friend xxx

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