What if Tomorrow Never Came?

I know, I know, we’ve all heard it–no one is guaranteed tomorrow. Depending on the setting, and depending on your age when (usually) an older person says it, this admonition is easier or harder to ignore.

But I am here to sound the trumpet:  There might not be a tomorrow for you or for someone you care about!

So if there is something you need to say, something you need to do, please, please, please–for the love of LOVE, say it or do it!

My family will tell you that I’ve always been one of those people who says things on the phone and writes things in cards that most folks just think about but never put into words.

And since Dominic’s death, I am even bolder.

Because we had NO CLUE that the last time each of us spoke with him, or texted him, or exchanged emails with him was going to be the LAST TIME. He wasn’t sick or going off to war, so there was no reminder of the brevity of life the day before he died.

Don’t get me wrong, we are not always roses and buttercups around here.  We have plenty of disagreements and misunderstandings.  And every one of us has strong opinions about almost everything.  But we refuse to stay angry for more than a few minutes.  Even when all that can be said or done is a text, “I’m sorry.  I love you.  Let’s talk about this later when we’re not so worked up.”

That’s what we do.  

That’s what we’ve always done.

And we are not shy about blessing one another either:  “Great job!”  “I knew you could do it!”  “Sorry you are having a bad day-praying.”

Who decided that smiley face stickers were only for kindergartners?  We all need encouragement every day.

I can’t bring Dominic back.  

I can’t get one more second, one more minute, one more day with my third born child to tell him I love him and that I am so very proud of him and that he was witty and a wonderful drummer and a good, good friend to so many people.

But I know he knows.

Because even though I can’t tell him now, I told him then.

I told him often and I told him in ways that were meaningful to him.

So, I carry the burden of missing him.  I carry the weight of sorrow that comes from burying a child.  But I am free from the awful cross that I might have been forced to bear if I didn’t know that I had loved him well.

And for that, I am grateful.

 

 

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

4 thoughts on “What if Tomorrow Never Came?”

  1. My husband, David, and I were sent by ambulance south while Gracen was flown north following our car collision. After being treated and released by the hospital my in-laws who had driven 3 1/2 hours to reach us drove us north, passed the accident site and on to the Joplin hospital where Gracen was in surgery. It was dark. Time held no meaning. I’d simply existed having been moved step by step to the next thing – most out of my personal control – since 2:45 that afternoon when all hell broke loose in our lives, for lack of a better way to describe the events of that day. As I sat in the backseat next to my injured husband, I reached over and grabbed his hand squeezing it and whispering, “They knew they were loved.” Next to where Bethany and Katie would spend eternity, that was the one thing that mattered most to me. That was my one consolation in the midst of the nightmare that my life had become. Bethany and Katie knew they were deeply and fiercely loved. I’m glad you have both the consolation of Dominic’s secure and eternal home with Jesus and that Dominic knew, without a doubt, that he was deeply loved. You gave him the best possible earthly gift – the assurance that like God’s love for His children, your love for him would never waiver. Well done, Melanie. Well done!

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