Reality Check

I’ve struggled since the beginning of this journey to convey others the ongoing open-ended emptiness of burying a child.  

There is simply no way to fill the void left by my son’s leaving.  

No job, no hobby, no ministry, no person, no exercise regimen, dietary discipline or medical intervention can fix this pain.  

So when people think I will

“get over”,

or

“move past”

my son’s death,

they profoundly misunderstand my experience.  

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Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

6 thoughts on “Reality Check”

  1. My family was forever changed on April 22 when my beautiful niece was lost in a freak accident. I read your blogs and have found great comfort. You don’t speak much about what I called the second ring of grief, the part of the family that grieves not only loss of Erin but also the loss of who her parents and brother were. I always called my brother and sister in law Lucy and Desi. They were the life of every family gathering. They, along with Erin, left that day. I try so hard to educate myself on how to help them in every way that I can, but I miss them so much along with my niece. Can you speak to this issue? They are attending the conference in Hot Springs in October and you are on the program. So glad. Thank you.

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