“Me Too”: The Power of Validation

In the wake of revelations that Harvey Weinstein built his media empire in part, by harrassing (and worse) women who worked for him, there is a Facebook wave of “me too” posts by women and men who have also been harrassed, molested or assaulted.

It is empowering.  

Because when hundreds, thousands and tens of thousands raise their social media “hands” to be counted, suddenly the lonely heart hiding in the corner realizes they are NOT alone.  

I am thrilled that the secrecy and shame of sexual misconduct by men against women is being dragged into the light.  That is where it belongs. 

I want to do the same for child loss.  I want to do the same for grief.  I want to start a bold campaign where mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, grandparents and others say, “Me too!”

My heart hurts too. 

My life is NOT the same and will NEVER be the same without my loved one’s companionship on earth.

I STILL look for him to come through the door on holiday weekends.  I still long to CALL her and share good news or talk over my day.  I CANNOT give up his old clothes or put away her toys or bundle up his belongings for charity.

I have to suck in my breath when a quick glance at a passing stranger tells my heart, “THERE HE IS!”

But my head says, “No, that can’t be him-he’s GONE.”

Songs-all kinds of songs-provoke memories, feelings, tears.  Dry it up.  Keep the fake face smiling.  Look forward, don’t let them see. 

There are thousands of us.  Thousands. of. us.

Who will stand and raise their hand and SHOUT, “Me too!”?

me too sharing the path

 

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

6 thoughts on ““Me Too”: The Power of Validation”

  1. Thank you for your honesty. My son passed to Heaven March 31,2014. “Me Too” is so real. In the year 2001, I was molested by someone I trusted. It was a terrible time in my life. My son passing too soon was indescribable. I feel the grief other mom’s feel. When our love ❤ is so very deep , our grief is even more. Every day is different. “Me Too”.

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  2. Wow – today’s blog is so powerful for me in many ways, I am a “me too” in the sexual harassment arena and in the grief arena too. I haven’t lost a child, but have lost parents, 2 best friends and more. I also am a grief counselor who works with men and women who have experienced all loss types and they too scream “me too”. I do believe as more of us speak about our significant losses, tell our stories, educate others about who we are now, what we feel and why we can never be who we once were, we can begin to erase myths and stigmas surrounding grief and loss and more people will begin to move from isolation to fuller participation in life’s ongoing conversations and experiences. Thank you for your wisdom, insights and sharing to so many of us.

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  3. I like this a lot… And after losing a child, and losing a friend over my grief… I’m tired of hiding it but it needs to be different words than “Me too” because that’s going to be assumed as sexual assault now.

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