Bereaved Parents Month Post: Have I Lost My Mind?

Here I am four years into this journey and I still have days when I think I have utterly lost my mind.  

Not because of internal cues but because of external pressure by family and friends to conform to some idea THEY have of what grief after child loss should look like.

I have to remind myself that they have NO IDEA what this is like and that if I am managing to move along-even at a snail’s pace-I’m just fine.

I wrote this a couple years ago in response to a private message sent to me by a friend:

“It was just over a year after Dominic’s accident and a friend forwarded an article about odd behaviors of those who were “stuck’ in grief.  Along with the forward was a little tag, “Reminds me of you.”

It hurt my feelings.

And it was inappropriate.”

Read the rest here:  I am NOT Crazy!

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

6 thoughts on “Bereaved Parents Month Post: Have I Lost My Mind?”

  1. Everyone grieves differently I lost my daughter in 1983 In an automobile accident. To this day the burning empty ache in my heart still exists as strong as the day it happened. Cherish the happy memories. I pray one day to be reunited.

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      1. My sons name is also Dominic, Friday the 20th of May will be one year since I got to kiss him and tell him how much I love him. He was my first born. He was my sidekick, and he was only 8. Complications of bone marrow transplant after going through intense chemo for acute myeloid leukemia. Maybe this was my sign today that he’s with me. Seeing his name. I’m still so lost without him. It still hurts so much. ♥️

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  2. 10/31/16 Travis was 17 and coming home to change his clothes so he could go trick or treating with his friends. He was killed in a car accident, his girlfriend was life flighted with severe head trauma, the young man who Travis hit head on after losing control of his vehicle was uninjured. Less than two years later my nephew was in a terrible car accident and was seriously injured. We thanked God the after a time he would recover from his injuries. However, my sister-in-law did not think we paid sufficient attention to him. She sent a text saying “I expected more from you after all you have just been through.” Really?!? Wow. They live in another state and were here for Travis’s funeral and all of the initial hell we went through. She is the only person I have blocked from my life.

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    1. That is sad and unfortunate. I am so very sorry for your pain and your loss and for your SIL’s lack of compassion. I pray that the Lord will overwhelm you and this situation with His grace, love and mercy. ❤


  3. So far I haven’t come across this, apart from the odd comment “It’s early days” and I am not sure what that means yet. I had expected some strange comments and judgements regarding Luke dying by suicide but again I have been fortunate or possibly they have not been said directly to me or my family. Maybe that is because I am so “out there” with my views about “outing” the stigma of mental health, I don’t know.
    I do know I am very careful of my own comments around any of my friends who are bereaved as it can be very hurtful when someone says tge wrong thing…even with the best of intentions.
    Peace be with you and your family xxx


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