Gratitude Doesn’t Undo Grief

One of the hard lessons I’ve learned in child loss is that while gratitude is important, and helps my heart hold on, it does not undo grief.

I truly look for and rejoice in every good thing, every tender moment, every smile, hug and bit of laughter shared with those I love.

But I can never stop looking for Dominic’s face around the table or longing to hear HIS voice in the chorus of chatter from the other room.

Oh, how I wish it were different!

The odd bits that break my heart-

The  moment my three living children are in the family room, joking and laughing-but his voice is so obviously missing.

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The moment I say to one son, “Have you texted your brother?” and don’t have to give a name, because there is only one brother left to text.

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Read the rest here: The Odd Bits That Break My Heart

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

2 thoughts on “Gratitude Doesn’t Undo Grief”

  1. I’m so sorry Melanie. I know you miss that beautiful smile, it’s infectious and makes others smile as well. . Yes I am too thankful for all around me but nothing can replace or fill that hole that my Steven left. Steven’s mom forever 34. 💜🙏🏻

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  2. Every single thing you write Melanie rings so true for me, it makes me ill to hear so many moms are hurting in this extremely painful way. It’s so hard to seeing everyone of his friends siblings and cousins moving on …..and it never goes away😥💔

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