It happens in all kinds of ways. One friend just slowly backs off from liking posts on Facebook, waves at a distance from across the sanctuary, stops texting to check up on me.
Another observes complete radio silence as soon as she walks away from the graveside.
Still another hangs in for a few weeks-calls, texts, even invites me to lunch until I can see in her eyes that my lack of “progress” is making her uneasy. Then she, too, falls off the grid.
Why do people do that?
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Yes I agree, unfortunately Family/friends don’t reach out very much or at all when we probably need it most, not to be cruel or heartless they are looking for their grieving friends to reach out to them for guidance, unfortunately that will rarely ever happen. “As they can’t read our minds”
You see we can’t think straight or concentrate on anything but our child, no matter how much time passes or how distracted family/ friends can try to make us, truth is not a single day has gone by without Chris in my thoughts, but honestly I’m guilty of it with friends that have lost a child as well, some handle it differently & that’s ok, lives are busy and my truest friends will be there at any given time, I have no doubt, however there’s a message here, not everyone is to stay in our lives forever some just pass through, some stay longer then others.
I’m still navigating through my “new life” even after 5 yrs I still get the wind knocked out of me with grief that comes in uncontrollable waves there’s no time limit as ppl think there should be, not when it comes to your child, I’ve pushed friends & family away & made some beautiful new ones along the way they too are like me grieving Mothers & Father’s
No one can possibly understand the loss of a child unless you walk this path which I pray you’d never have too. All I know is this for sure we don’t need pity just understand Im not the same person you once knew, she’s gone forever. I am a mother who lost her precious son Christopher who’s life “mattered” He deserves to live on through me, so I will continue to speak of him & shout his name to the world & tell his story. If that makes you uncomfortable that’s not my intention. My intention is to keep my sons memory alive and never to be forgotten that’s what helps me to push through everyday without him.
From One Grieving Parent to Another, Be gentle with yourself, I feel your Heartbreak!❤️🩹
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Yes I agree, unfortunately Family/friends don’t reach out very much or at all when we probably need it most, not to be cruel or heartless they are looking for their grieving friends to reach out to them for guidance, unfortunately that will rarely ever happen. “As they can’t read our minds”
You see we can’t think straight or concentrate on anything but our child, no matter how much time passes or how distracted family/ friends can try to make us, truth is not a single day has gone by without Chris in my thoughts, but honestly I’m guilty of it with friends that have lost a child as well, some handle it differently & that’s ok, lives are busy and my truest friends will be there at any given time, I have no doubt, however there’s a message here, not everyone is to stay in our lives forever some just pass through, some stay longer then others.
I’m still navigating through my “new life” even after 5 yrs I still get the wind knocked out of me with grief that comes in uncontrollable waves there’s no time limit as ppl think there should be, not when it comes to your child, I’ve pushed friends & family away & made some beautiful new ones along the way they too are like me grieving Mothers & Father’s
No one can possibly understand the loss of a child unless you walk this path which I pray you’d never have too. All I know is this for sure we don’t need pity just understand Im not the same person you once knew, she’s gone forever. I am a mother who lost her precious son Christopher who’s life “mattered” He deserves to live on through me, so I will continue to speak of him & shout his name to the world & tell his story. If that makes you uncomfortable that’s not my intention. My intention is to keep my sons memory alive and never to be forgotten that’s what helps me to push through everyday without him.
From One Grieving Parent to Another, Be gentle with yourself, I feel your Heartbreak!❤️🩹 Paula Borden Penny Baptista Adrienne Clarke Teresa Graham, Susan Goodlip Kim Rickards Brenda O’Brien
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Melanie, as so many have already said, you give words to our thoughts & tears…I sometimes thought I was the only one this happened to…I have come to understand that even my family feels they have said all that can be said…One friend said it best at Ryan’s funeral when she whispered in my ear “…and I will probably not check on you because YOU got the phone call I dread getting…” She was honest from the beginning….I was stunned but now appreciate her honesty & pray she never gets ‘that phone call’.
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