If I got ten grieving parents in a room we could write down fifty things we wish people would stop saying in about five minutes.
Most of the time folks do it out of ignorance or in a desperate attempt to sound compassionate or to change the subject (death is very uncomfortable) or simply because they can’t just shut their mouths and offer silent companionship.
And most of the time, I and other bereaved parents just smile and nod and add one more encounter to a long list of unhelpful moments when we have to be the bigger person and take the blow without wincing.
But there is one common phrase that I think needs attention
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March of 2021 our grandson arrived safe in Jesus arms. He was 9 years old.The last conversation I had with him he told me that he “doesn’t like it when people are mad or sad.” We talked about both emotions from a biblical perspective. He listened intently (that was him), before he walked away. Looking into my eyes he said, “You’re right Oma! But I still don’t like it when people are sad or mad.”Little did I know, one month later our hearts would be shattered and the deepest sorrow (sadness) a parent, grandparent could feel was upon us. His absence will always shadow our days. But knowing how he embraced life with such passion, loved every one to the fullest, and didn’t like people being sad or mad… he’d be proud of us!We love as he loved, we embrace life with the same passion, joy and happiness as he did. How?We give God the upmost glory and praise for our ability to carry on, just as our precious boy desires us to.Until we are together for eternity!Our hope is in the Lord.
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