A few decades ago, faulty research methods made popular an inaccurate statistic that a disproportionate number of marriages fail after a couple experiences child loss.
Like many urban legends, once fixed in the minds of many, it’s nearly impossible to dislodge.
And that is more than unfortunate because when marriages falter (and they often do) after child loss, some people just give up because they think failure is inevitable.
But it’s not.
Marriage is hard under any circumstances. It requires sacrifice, compromise, communication, change and most importantly, commitment.
Any stressor makes it harder.
I can’t think of a bigger stressor than child loss. It’s no surprise that many marriages tend to flounder in the tsunami of grief, sorrow and pain that follows the death of a child.
But grief rarely causes the problems that surface, it simply makes them unavoidable.
Suddenly all the energy that was once available to deflect, to distract, to pretend is gone. And things that have gone unaddressed for years or decades can no longer be ignored.
Read the rest here: Child Loss: Can My Marriage Survive?
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