When my kids went anywhere, I would always ask them to send a text just to let me know they had safely arrived at their destination.  They honored that request (most of the time!) and it eased my mind.

My mama heart wanted to know they were OK.

My living children still send me texts when traveling.  It’s an easy way to relieve anxious thoughts and I appreciate it.

But my son, who has made the last great journey, is silent.

And that’s exactly what I expected.

I think Dominic is so enthralled with the beauty of Heaven, with the communion of saints gone before and with the fullness of joy at the right hand of his Savior that he does not look with longing at the life he left.

He is in possession of the promise.  He knows fully, even as he is fully known.

At present we are men looking at puzzling reflections in a mirror. The time will come when we shall see reality whole and face to face! At present all I know is a little fraction of the truth, but the time will come when I shall know it as fully as God now knows me!

I Corinthians 13:12 PHILLIPS

He has the ultimate assurance that God is faithful and that His lovingkindness endures forever.  Dominic (if he even thinks of it at all) has no concern that the same Savior who rescued him won’t also rescue me.

“You must not let yourselves be distressed—you must hold on to your faith in God and to your faith in me. There are many rooms in my Father’s House. If there were not, should I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? It is true that I am going away to prepare a place for you, but it is just as true that I am coming again to welcome you into my own home, so that you may be where I am. You know where I am going and you know the road I am going to take.”

~Jesus ( John 14:1-4 PHILLIPS)

My faith has been tested in ways I never thought it would be.  And it has been, and continues to be, HARD. 

Now faith is the assurance (title deed, confirmation) of things hoped for (divinely guaranteed), and the evidence of things not seen [the conviction of their reality—faith comprehends as fact what cannot be experienced by the physical senses]

Hebrews 11:1 AM

The same God who made a donkey speak and sent ravens to feed Elijah can use the birds of the air and the beasts of the field to encourage me.

And He does- I have found a dozen perfect bird’s nests since Dominic left us.  I believe they are signs from my Savior, not my son-tokens of hope sent to bless my broken heart from the Father who loves me.

God still speaks-He makes Himself known through His Word, through people, through nature and in still, small whispers to my heart through His Spirit.

He doesn’t answer all my questions.  But I don’t feel abandoned.  

Dominic is with Jesus and Jesus is with me.

Jesus Christ is always the same, yesterday, today and for ever.

Hebrews 13:8 PHILLIPS

I don’t feel close to Dominic at his grave. I go to honor him, to give voice to his memory but the essence of who he was and who he still is, lies in my heart and in the hearts of those who loved him and love him still.

And the witness of that enduring love is the sign to which I cling. 

Faith is to believe when you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe.







Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

10 thoughts on “Signs”

  1. I also believe as you about signs. God miraculously, graciously, lovingly, mercifully sent me an answer to my desperate pleas about my son after it was ruled his death a suicide. I was careful not to attribute the signs I received as anything but providence….holy divine. As is with everything…even our deaths, there is a time and God has been right on time ministering to me through that one song in ways that only He and I understand. Although others have been witnesses to it, too.

    I am not a believer in coincidence. I believe in Godcidence. Nothing has come to me to relieve my mind and heart other than His merciful peace that passes all understanding. I pray that for all parents whose minds have been tortured by the way their child died. God bless you.

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  2. I will add this- which is important from my understanding of Christianity- I take my view of God from Scripture and while there are many many things yet unexplained, there are attributes of God and His Son, Jesus, clearly explained. I do not believe that all roads lead to heaven nor that I am free to conjure my own perception of who God really is or what He requires from me. ❤️

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  3. I love reading your posts but on this one I cannot agree. I don’t have the belief in a God who doesn’t want us to communicate with our loved ones that have gone before or who doesn’t want them to communicate with us. I believe in a God who gives us the ability to talk to and receive in turn messages from our loved ones. My son, Domenico, yes, it’s almost your son’s name, just the Italian version, and I are in constant communication. And have been since his passing 11/11/09. It’s what keeps me going. Knowing we do keep on talking and knowing that while Nick ( his nickname) is in Heaven, he is still with me. I respect your view of God and how it all works. And I believe that for you, it’s as it should be. But for me, it’s different. Am I a sinner? Of course, I’m a flawed human being. But to believe the way that I do, no, the gift of communication with my son comes from the Higher Power of a much different God than yours. IMHO, we are all right. God is not quite so prescribed as religion makes Him seen. Please understand that in no way am I denigrating your strong beliefs. I just believe differently.

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  4. We have to be careful not to steal others hope. For some, seeing small signs as being from their child, builds their faith in Jesus- it doesn’t diminish it. Since the word is not specific on whether our children can send signs or maybe ask the Father to send specific signs, it would seem kind not to diminish others hope.

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    1. Sherry, I want to be gracious at all times and I certainly understand your concern. However I believe the Word is very plain in this respect. It declares that we are not to seek communication with the dead. When Saul did, he was chastised severely. When the rich man begged for Lazarus (the poor man in the bosom of Abraham) to be sent to warn his brothers of their fate if they did not repent, he was told that if they (the brothers) did not believe Moses, they wouldn’t believe someone who came back from the grave. I am leaning on these truths even though I would like very much to hear from my son.

      As a bereaved parent I am already struggling in my heart not to place my desire to be with my son gone before higher than my desire to please Christ and be with Jesus. My experience has been that when parents begin to think they are seeing signs from their child, they lean more and more on the child and less and less on Jesus.

      I try hard to make every post hope-filled and full of grace. But on this issue I can’t find any other way to be truthful and true to the Bible. I am sorry if it hurts someone’s heart. That’s now what I want to do. ❤

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