Repost: What Grieving Parents Want Others to Know

This was one of the first posts I wrote.  It hadn’t been long since I was introduced to an online community of bereaved parents and began to see that I wasn’t the only one who had friends and family that misunderstood child loss.

I was spending a lot of time in my life trying to help others comprehend, just a little, what it felt like to bury a child.

Trying to give them a tiny taste of how this pain is so, so different than any other I had experienced.  Begging them to toss the popular ideas bandied around that grief followed “stages” and was “predictable”.

I re-share every so often because it seems to help, a little.  ❤

People say, “I can’t imagine.

But then they do.

They think that missing a dead child is like missing your kid at college or on the mission field but harder and longer.

That’s not it at all.

It isn’t nostalgia for a time when things were different or better or you talked more: it’s a gut-wrenching, breath-robbing, knee-buckling, aching groan that lives inside you begging to be released.

Read the rest here:  What Grieving Parents Want Others to Know

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

1 thought on “Repost: What Grieving Parents Want Others to Know”

  1. Our son was 4 and had a minor surgery (tubes in the ears). The anesthetic machine was broke and he was without oxygen resulting in severe brain damage. He could not walk/talk since then. He lived for 36 yrs in a wheelchair with a g tube for nourishment and only could smile. I really think he knew me… Because he would squeal everyday he seen me. He lived in a group home and On his 40th birthday he aspirated and went to heaven 3 days later. It has been 3 yrs now and I miss him more than ever Goes gives us what we can handle and this roller coaster life has made me stronger in my faith with God.

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