How Can I Trust My Child Is With Jesus?

There are many burdens bereaved parents bear in addition to the heaviness of living with child loss.

Some had unfinished business,

some were estranged,

some had harsh words

or no words at all before their child left them.

And some are oh, so afraid that the child that made a sincere profession of faith in Christ might not be in heaven because he or she was living outside the will of God when they died.

I can’t offer words to undo or soothe some of the other burdens, but I can offer hope from the Word of God to assure any parent afraid for the eternal salvation of their child that he or she is safely Home.

If your child made a genuine profession of faith in Christ, then no single impulsive decision or even a series of bad choices, can undo what God has done for him or her through the blood of Jesus.

If Satan is not strong enough to snatch us from God’s hand, our feeble human choices are certainly not strong enough!

Jesus declared those whom the Father had given Him could in no way be snatched from His hand:

28 And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.

29 My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s hand.

30 I and my Father are one.

John 10:28-30 KJV

The circumstances of a child’s death do not negate his or her profession of faith in the blood of Christ Jesus!

42 Then he [the repentent thief on the cross] said, “Jesus, remember me when you enter your kingdom.”

43 He said, “Don’t worry, I will. Today you will join me in paradise.”

Luke 22: 42-43 MSG

I realize that various denominational traditions teach different things, but I am utterly convinced that it is God Himself Who calls, Who saves, Who keeps and Who is keeping at this moment our precious children who put their trust in Jesus:

For it is by grace [God’s remarkable compassion and favor drawing you to Christ] that you have been saved [actually delivered from judgment and given eternal life] through faith. And this [salvation] is not of yourselves [not through your own effort], but it is the [undeserved, gracious] gift of God;

Ephesians 2:8 AMP

I also rest satisfied that He Who began a good work in our children is faithful to complete it. If salvation depended on our good works, or our own faithfulness-ALL of us would be lost.

began a good work

We are hid in Christ. His righteousness (and HIS alone) is our righteousness.

For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.

Colossians 3:3 KJV

Our sins are flung as far as the east is from the west. They are hid behind God’s back-unviewable (have you ever tried to see something on the small of your back-without a mirror?):


Dominic was not at the height of his Bible-toting, church-going, praise-song-singing days when he left us.  He was an adult student in law school, living in his own apartment and making his own choices.  He made some I didn’t like.  But that doesn’t change the FACT that he belonged (and STILL belongs)  to Jesus.

Your child who trusted Jesus is safe, dear parent.

He is in his really, truly Home.

One day there will be great joy when we are reunited. Until then, we rely on the promises of God in Christ to see us through.

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I pray for every parent reading that God overwhelms your hurting heart with His love, grace and mercy and assures you of His faithfulness.

And may He give you strength for each new day.

❤ Melanie

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

14 thoughts on “How Can I Trust My Child Is With Jesus?”

  1. TY I’ve been so worried about my sweet beautiful daughter being in the right place she’s a good girl w a huge heart, you still worry no matter what I still pray that we will be together soon she’s my everything always still can’t believe this & it’s been 2years & 5months it just gets worst I miss her so much. Sorry for your loss. God bless you. I love you more… my sweet beautiful Brittany ❤🐝

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  2. Thank you Melanie for your helpful thoughts and the reassurance of Scripture. I, too, know where our son, Dan is, but he had a rocky journey with his faith. How good to know that it is He who holds us all fast.

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  3. Beautiful post, and so quietly convincing. I tell myself all the time that I KNOW where my son is, yet I crave for validation. I appreciate reading your words this morning.

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  4. Thank you so MUCH Melanie! I’m so grateful for your writings. I look forward to each one of your post. Helps my broken heart get through each passing day. God Bless You! Much love to you from this mom who lost my son to suicide July 20, 2016. He would have been 22 on the 27th of July 2016. Will soon be a year, and the pain in my heart never stops. My “Drew” did ask Jesus to come into his heart and made confession of his faith to many people. He still lived at home, and his Christian walk concerned me, but I kept reassuring myself “he will spiritually grow in time.” Never imagined the unimaginable would EVER happen. God ministers to my heart so much through you. Please keep them coming! Sincerly, Cindy Bell-Parsley

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    1. I think that most of us have a testimony of moving away from God in our teens/early 20s (if we were raised in church and made an early profession). Some of our children didn’t get the opportunity to grow out of it. But I earnestly believe that they are safe with their Shepherd. Praying God gives you what you need for each new day. ❤

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      1. Yes! Amen. I just had this very same discussion with my own sister. Even though Zac had wandered away from his faith, doesn’t mean that God left him or he somehow “lost” his salvation. Zac’s salvation is secured because of what Jesus did on the cross, not because of anything Zac did or didn’t do to stay saved.

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  5. Thank you, thank you. I know in my heart where my son is also. He died of a heroin overdose and at times that has caused doubt. Thank you for reminding me what His word tells us.

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    1. My son also died of an overdose. But my fear is that he had NOT made a profession of faith. He was still in the process of accepting his “higher power” and admitted he was unsure what he believed. 😞

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      1. That adds another layer to your concerns, Allyson. But like the thief on the cross, even a last-moment, last-breath confession covers us with God’s grace . I am so sorry that you have this extra burden. Praying the Father keeps your heart in His and that He gives you strength for each day.

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  6. Thank you dear Melanie, just what my heart needed tonight. I know where my son is but to reassure my mind sure helps. Thank you for your words and thank you dear Lord!

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