Anyone Have Birthday Ideas?

It will be Dominic’s thirty-third birthday in a few days and even though this is the tenth (!) one I’ve had to mark without his earthly companionship, I’m no better at it.

I just do not know HOW I’m supposed to honor and celebrate him today when I really can’t imagine who he would be or what new interests he might have picked up along the way.

I do know I miss him like crazy.

And while this aging mama often has to start with her oldest to figure everyone’s current age, it doesn’t hurt any less when I skip count past Dom to my youngest son who many years ago surpassed him in earthly years.

I hate that.

❤ Melanie

Some folks are great at it.

They find a tagline or a cause or even a certain color and it becomes shorthand for remembering and honoring their missing child.

Me, not so much.

Dominic wasn’t the kind of person you could sum up in a few words or a certain favorite anything.

Read the rest here: Birthday Ideas? Anyone?

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

4 thoughts on “Anyone Have Birthday Ideas?”

  1. This post is so spot on, because my son Tim will be 28 tomorrow 5/26. I almost forgot his age😢 I was thinking 27 and that scared me. He is so similar to your Dominic, and I miss him every minute of everyday! We stay in contact with his girlfriend/ fiancé. It will be 4 years in October.
    We have his birthday dinner on his birthday. He loved the beach, so sometimes I go to the beach and walk♥️ Thank you Melanie for expressing my feelings and emotions so very perfectly!!
    ♥️ Carolyn

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  2. This will be Daniel’s 4th birthday that he’ll be celebrating in heaven…and we’ll be missing him on earth. He would be 34 on July 2. The only thing I have come up with thus far…and I’m NO expert…is we eat pizza from his fave pizza place, I make his fave apple pie, we sit around a bonfire…and I give a small gift to his siblings/spouses and his widow in Daniel’s honor. The first year it was a plaque with his confirmation verse on it (Jeremiah 29:11). Last year was a tie-dye serving platter (Daniel wore everything tie-dye). This year, everyone is getting a handmade/whiskey barrel handled pizza cutter as he loved pizza. Ive no idea how I will keep this up or what lies ahead…but his birthday needs to be marked with love for him and all he loved and that’s what I’m trying to do as we gift, gifts of love, to his beloved/grieving brother and sister and wife.

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  3. For the last 2 years I have been honoring my daughter on her birthday by serving others. Last year I took flowers to about a dozen mothers who had lost their own children. Some I knew and others I “knew” because of the life we didn’t choose, but one that we share. It was actually a beautiful day. This year, sadly I have a new list of sisters to visit.

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  4. The last few years, I’ve donated money to a ministry. I ask God to tell me the amount and the place although I do do some research. He comes through. A mission work that also trains young people in a trade had all their equipment for metal working stolen. Malcolm was a CNC machinist and mechanic who always helped people. I donated in his name to replace the equipment. Around Malcolm’s birthday, they had been hit with a hurricane. Malcolm was part of a charity group of truck owners who would gather supplies and take them in a convoy of trucks to areas in need like when Deteoit needed water. For Austin’s birthday, a matching opportunity came up that was for gospel outreach to children in remote villages. Austin was great with kids, spread the gospel every chance he got and had been on a mission trip to Jamaica as a teen. God has led me to the opportunities each time I’ve asked that both honor my boys and spread the gospel. It keeps their work going. “And through his faith, though he died, he still speaks” Heb 11:4


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