There are two ways to deal with the scars pain leaves behind: try to cover them up or display them boldly.
Hiding seems the easier way so many times-because the scars are tender and the last thing I want is to invite more pain. But it takes great effort and is rarely successful.
The edges peek out here and there and then I’m left awkwardly trying to explain how I got them and what they mean.
If I refuse to hide my scars and instead lay them open to the world, I am vulnerable,true. But I am also in a position to help others who are suffering the same pain that etched those scars in my heart.
So I choose not to hide.
I choose to be a lighthouse.
Not because I think I can steer others clear of the rocks of loss and sorrow, but because I want them to knowthey are not alone.
Go to my personal Facebook page(Melanie DeSimone) where I set those posts on “public” for easy access/sharing.
Follow me on Pinterest:Melanie DeSimone Pinterest-I post the blog on a board called “The Life I Didn’t Choose” and also in “Grief”.
Follow me on Twitter:@DesimoneMelanie. I’m not a big Twitter user but for those that are, this is an easy way to view/share the blog posts.
Some of you are part of closed bereaved parents groups and I post there as well.
But if you want to share the post, you will need to access it another way. If you share from the closed groups it shows as “attachment unavailable” except to other group members even if you set it on “public”.
The social media icons on the right hand side of a post will take you to my Facebook page, Twitter account and Pinterest page. For some reason the Google+ link won’t work but I’ll keep trying (told you I was no tech genious!)
I appreciate each and every personwho takes the time to read what I write-it makes me feel that this pain is being redeemed, just a little. And I am so thankful and blessed by feedback on the blog and via social media posts-let me hear from you!
You can click on the LINK to the blog and use any of the social media buttons at the bottom of the blog to share to the social media platform of your choice (Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Pinterest, etc.);
If you are a WordPress user, you may reblog any post by clicking that button-you will have the option to add personal comments and then the blog will show up on your site with a link back to my original post.
I also post the blog on several closed bereaved parents’ sites on Facebook.
If that’s where you see it, please click on the link and share from the blog itselfto protect the privacy of those sites and the people who belong to them.
A great way to be sure you never miss a post is to sign up to receive blog posts in your email. Just click on the “follow blog via email” button on the right hand side of any blog post.
You get the whole post-not just a link that makes you click through. That’s an easy, fast way to get it every morning without having to get on Facebook. You can forward the email to friends if you like.
Really the only way NOT to share the blog is by copying and pasting the content and then posting it as your own.
I love, love, love when I get feedback from another bereaved parent that says what I’ve written is what they feel or have experienced. Not because I wish this pain on a single soul, but because I know others share my pain and I am thankful that sometimes MY words help them put THEIR feelings into a form they can share with others.
So, if a particular post is helpful to you-please DO SHARE. ❤