Christmas 2017: What the Bereaved Need From Family and Friends

Christmas is fast approaching so I’m posting this one last time.  I hope it helps someone who is struggling to share how hard it can be to “make merry” when a heart is broken. ❤

I know it is hard.  I know you don’t truly understand how I feel.  You can’t.  It wasn’t your child.

I know I may look and act like I’m “better”.  I know that you would love for things to be like they were:  BEFORE.  But they aren’t.

I know my grief interferes with your plans.  I know it is uncomfortable to make changes in traditions we have observed for years.  But I can’t help it.  I didn’t ask for this to be my life.

Read the rest here:  Grief and Holidays:What the Bereaved Need From Friends and Family

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

4 thoughts on “Christmas 2017: What the Bereaved Need From Family and Friends”

    1. Karen, I am so very sorry for your multiplied pain and losses. I have imagined what it may be like to live decades with this missing-but, of course, just like it was impossible to truly imagine child loss before it happened to MY heart, I’m wise enough now to know that my imagination can’t conjure it properly. I pray that the Lord makes HImself very real to you this Christmas season and that He surrounds you with His love, mercy and grace. ❤


  1. I have four children, the youngest with Jesus, and we help look after her four children. But I am so sorry someone else is in a similarly sad situation. It’s been 20 months and I am still so broken-hearted 💔

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