I don’t want to remember my son.
I want to make memories with him.
I want him to watch me grow old, to watch him get married and have children and to hear his voice mingled with his siblings at my table.
I’ve tried dozens of times to write a post that describes the abyss that divides the life I thought I would live and what it’s turned out to be.
I can’t do it.
A twenty-three year old isn’t planning his legacy. A mom of a twenty-three year old isn’t carefully preserving daily moments in the event he suddenly disappears.
Whatever legacy Dominic has left behind is a function of his huge personality rather than careful planning. And all I have left of his life are bits and pieces I’m trying to string together so he’s not forgotten.
I was not prepared to wake up one morning and learn that his earthly story ended.
I didn’t get to say good-bye, didn’t get to look him in the eye and tell him how very much I love him, didn’t even get to hold his hand as he left this life and entered Heaven.
I know he is just fine. He’s full of joy and perfectly content.
But I’m not.
I don’t want Dominic to be a memory.
I want him to be here.