Dominic left us in April, 2014.
At the time all I could manage (barely!) was the twenty-four hours of each long, lonely and pain-wracked day.
After nine-plus years I’ve learned to look ahead, plan ahead and forge ahead to birthdays, holidays, special days and not-so-special days.
But it takes a great deal of effort and often uncomfortable conversations because no matter how long it’s been, I’m still dragging loss and its after affects behind me.
I wrote this in 2016 when I was desperate to communicate how hard it is to try to marry joy and sorrow, celebration and commemoration, light, love, life and darkness, grief and death.
It remains (I think) my most useful post: Grief and Holidays: What the Bereaved Need From Friends and Family
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thelifeididntchoose 
So very true. Every word. It will be 7 years since my only child died. All holidays have been different.
Christmas music, toys, lights…all reminders of Christmas pasts.
This time of year, she was slowly dying. I have to concentrate on the big picture of Christmas just to make it through each day. Jesus . He is the reason we rejoice.
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