Today I was backing out of the driveway when my eyes landed on the tag of one of our other cars.
Suddenly I realized that I hadn’t renewed our tags this year.
They are due in January and, like other important dates graven in my over- organized brain, I literally NEVER forget.
But I did.
And I hadn’t even thought about it these three months until just now.
My sweet granddaughter, Holly, went to Heaven at Dallas Children’s Hospital January 4th. My elderly dad had eye surgery in Florida January 19th. I was home for exactly four days the whole month.
This is what grief looks like in real time twelve years later.
I still have six half grown kittens born a week before Holly entered the world . I brought their poor mama 700 miles because I didn’t want her to deliver while I was away welcoming my precious girl.
I just can’t let them go.
They are connected to her life, a source of joy, a reminder that death doesn’t claim every beautiful thing.
I’m probably going to keep them all because I can and because a farm can always use more barn cats.
This is what grief looks like twelve years later.
I recently had a nuclear stress test and an echocardiogram. My EKG in January was just a little “off” so my cardiologist sent me for testing.
The results were good. No real issues other than that I need to get back to walking every day and should lose weight.
I finally activated a Fitbit tracker I bought months ago to track my heart rate, activity and steps.
This is what grief looks like even after over a decade.
I’m rapidly approaching another unwelcome milestone marking twelve long years since I heard Dominic’s voice, saw his face, hugged his neck.
I’m stronger.
I feel joy.
I don’t cry every day.
But if anyone thinks the absence of my son or my granddaughter doesn’t change EVERYTHING, they are wrong.
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