Why I’m Not Going Anywhere

I want to make perfectly clear that this is NOT a political post.

I don’t do that here.

It is, instead, a PSA for anyone who follows the blog and might feel the need to leave any or all social media platforms in light of recent events.

I don’t want folks who depend on these daily posts to be left out in the cold.

I have friends from across the political, socioeconomic, religious and ethnic spectrum. For most of us the uniting factor is a broken heart.

We have learned to walk graciously in our wounded condition and (generally) assume the best about others.

So I’m not going anywhere.

I will continue to post the blog on Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest to make it as widely available to those who want to read it and share it as possible.

If you’ve been depending on those avenues for access and are deleting or deactivating your account, you can follow via email (look for the invitation on any post that says, “Follow Blog via Email” and put in your email address).

Each day’s post will be delivered to your inbox.

I appreciate every heart that gathers around this space.

I often feel like we are keeping company in my living room next to the fire.

I hope that if you find any good or any help in these posts you will choose to remain part of our community.

❤ Melanie

Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

19 thoughts on “Why I’m Not Going Anywhere”

  1. This is very important work that you are doing. While my child loss is decades old (our 4 year old Christopher died in 1983), I have been walking alongside grieving parents ever since and I find your posts authentic and true to this journey.

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  2. Iam staying too. I don’t know what I’d do without your daily email. You write my heart after loss of my son, December, 2017. 🧡🧡


  3. Thank you, Melanie.

    I will be signing up to read your post in my email in case I find the need to also leave Facebook.

    I don’t get to either one daily, Facebook or my email, because I dislike sitting in front of a screen to connect.

    BUT…I found your posts soon after I lost my eldest son to suicide in March of 2019 and you – your heart, spoken in honest, painful, empathetic, kind, encouraging words – have helped me to begin to find a way to learn to live with my loss.

    Your raw openness and honesty have confirmed that, sadly, I am not alone in my thoughts and feelings, but neither am I crazy in having them.

    I am very sorry that your Dominic “ran on ahead to heaven” before you, as did my John, and my heart aches with yours.

    I am thankful that you are there and that even in your own grief, you have offered us a seat on your couch, a cup of coffee to warm our hands, a listening heart and a shoulder to cry on.

    You are immensely appreciated.

    And although we all come to realize the huge, empty hole they left will never be filled until we are with them again, as we allow others to share our real pain and struggle and us theirs, may their presence occupy that place for just a few minutes and bring a break, a moment of relief, so that we can keep moving forward; living, and yes, even enjoying our lives as we know they did when they were here and would want us to.

    Thank you – for the moments you occupy that space in my heart and encourage me.

    I know it takes energy and effort that only comes from our gracious, loving, ever present Lord.

    May He abundantly bless you for your love and sacrifice in helping us.

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  4. I would be both terribly saddened and lost without your daily posts. Melanie, you are such an inspiration to those of us just trying to make it another day. Thank you so much for the all you do. We all applaud you for sharing your gift.

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    1. I a;so enjoy your post and try to read them everyday as i who lost my wonderful son on June 7th 2020 suddenly from a Rzr accident. Your post always seems to help so much and I always look forward to reading them and will continue to follow them, Thank You


  5. I receive your blog posts via email as in my foggy state of mind i get frazzled with too many voices.

    It is here where i sit with you and reminisce and remember the before and the after.

    Thank you.


    On Mon, Jan 11, 2021, 1:46 AM thelifeididntchoose wrote:

    > Melanie posted: ” I want to make perfectly clear that this is NOT a > political post. I don’t do that here. It is, instead, a PSA for anyone who > follows the blog and might feel the need to leave any or all social media > platforms in light of recent events. I d” >

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  6. Yes people do seem to be disillusioned with social media at the moment don’t they? Me included.

    We have had a bad experience this last week with someone, concerning Luke. I am trying to be gracious and give him the benefit of the doubt. However, it does appear artistic license has turned into something more like artistic arrogance and is hurting already broken hearts.

    I am glad you have covered all bases for any of us that may need a break from some of the platforms. As always your thoughtfulness and generosity shines on us all Melanie ❤❤❤


    1. Oh, Carol! I am so very sorry for your bad experience! You have such a kind and gracious heart I hate that someone has stomped on it.

      I pray the Lord convicts them of their misdeed and they take responsibility and make amends.

      Praying for you. ❤


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