Child Loss: Friends and Family Can Anchor a Heart

Child loss rips through a life like a tornado-wild, unpredictable, viciously destructive.

It drops from the sky like a meteorite-no warning, no defense, just crushing weight.

It wrecks havoc in absolutely every corner of a bereaved parents’ heart and life.

And there is no safe space to escape from nor insurance policy to cover THAT damage. 

When Dominic was killed, his sudden death instantly untethered me from the world as I knew it.  I needed friends and family to anchor my heart in love and support so I didn’t float away.  ❤

loss makes people feel out of control


Author: Melanie

I am a shepherd, wife and mother of four amazing children, three that walk the earth with me and one who lives with Jesus. This is a record of my grief journey and a look into the life I didn't choose. If you are interested in joining a community of bereaved parents leaning on the promises of God in Christ, please like the public Facebook page, "Heartache and Hope: Life After Losing a Child" and join the conversation.

8 thoughts on “Child Loss: Friends and Family Can Anchor a Heart”

  1. Three years for me this month, Melanie, and I still read your posts daily, and save the ones that really strike a chord with me. God bless you and thank you.


  2. The loss of my daughter five weeks ago brought my family and I to our knees. We’ve been fortunate to have a community around us. I wish for her back everyday! Thank you for sharing!


  3. I feel like losing a child is the most lonely experience. I was deserted by my sister, I don’t want to burden my mother who lost her grandson and has to watch her child suffer. If my husband is having a good day and I am not I don’t want to burden him with my feelings. Most friends just turn away when Ryan’s name comes up, I can’t burden my fellow bereaved parents with my pain as they have their own to deal with! Heaven can’t come soon enough!!

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    1. Julie, I am so very sorry for your pain and your loss. This IS a lonely path. But it’s really important you find a way to tell those you love (and who are most likely wanting to hear) how you really feel. It leaks out somewhere anyway. Try journaling to get the rawest, most desperate feelings out and on paper and then commit to share with the people God has given you to help carry life’s burdens. Praying that the Lord gives you strength to hold onto hope and that He floods your broken heart with His grace, mercy and love. ❤


  4. Each of your posts leaves me wondering how I will ever make it until the Good Lord calls me home-at least I’ve moved on from IF I’ll make it. Wondering if anyone has the situation I have: Ryan’s sister(1 1/2 years younger) was “tortured” by him beginning in the middle school yrs. Apparently, he had been suffering from mental illness for so long -We never even knew until he took his life this past April 26 @ age 39. She is glad he is gone but sad that we never knew of his diagnoses b/c maybe she would have understood long enough to be his friend & confidant. If I show emotion over his loss, she reminds me demonstratively, of all the times he also ‘tortured’ me w/his demands…as a mom, I learned to work through them, never dreaming he was BP 1 w/6 moreco-morbidites. I can’t ‘lose’ another child…but I am so overwhelmed at times…Maybe in time??? I pray God can help us all to survive the many obstacles that must be put aside for healing…


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